After this traumatic event happened, her hair color changed.
Healing often involves shifting one's fundamental beliefs, to create space for healing.
We are a constellation of stories.
When this occurred to me, it was a profound revelation, though the words don't quite get to the profundity of it.
Here are a few illustrations just to clarify what I mean;
Did you know your body gathers fat at certain areas as a protective measure? The body creates a 'cushion' to protect itself. I had a client once who's father continually spanked her, and in order to not feel the pain, she realized that her body intelligence gave her a cushion around her bottom.
People put on weight when they are afraid of love, or when they need time to heal, as the body intelligence works to repel new suitors. Sometimes processing a relationship emotionally does wonders where dietary measures do little. Because we cannot bypass the body intelligence and the intentions of the subconscious mind.
Another women I knew was kidnapped, and she remembers a man holding her. She looked down, and saw this hairy arm around her chest. The body intelligence works to fit in, to acclimate, so she said that after that event, her own arms grew a lot of dark hair (she was otherwise blonde). She remembered the arms of her assailant being hairy, and so her arms became like that, because being different from him was a threat to the body, and becoming 'one' with him or more like him made it all easier to endure somehow.
Another client was beat up as a child by the minority kids in a poor area, because she was a pretty, blue-eyed blonde. Soon after, her hair went dark. I can venture to say that her eyes darkened too. Her body learned that being different was a danger.
The eyes are the windows to the soul. They're also the windows to the body. Dark moods can darken the eyes. Also, physical systemic congestion shows up in brown eyes as darkness, in blue eyes as either a brown coating or a white film.
The true color of your eyes was closer to fully expressed soon after you were born. I often watch eye colors shift during conversations.
Sometimes, clients show up after sessions or meetings, after a deep clearing, or powerful emotional response, and they look 'different.'
Perhaps they aren't 'different', I tell myself... they are just more 'them.' It's difficult to describe.
I mentioned a client I'd worked with under a tree, about growing up as a scarred child in a war torn country, and missing his innocence. After our conversation, some children ran up to him and asked if he wanted to play soccer. Note that they didn't ask me.
What changes? The subtle frequencies of the life force? The aura? The physical structure? Color? The cells emitting waves. All of it?
And how did those children read that story that had shifted?
It's easy for hair or eyes to go dark. It takes a second. WE sometimes think that it requires more effort to lighten them up again, and that this is the process of healing. In fact, that sometimes happens in an instant too, though laying the groundwork for that instant is what takes deep work.
Or, perhaps that's just one of the stories I'm embodying.
Love and flow,